Yesterday I began to notice a quote from Sister Margaret D. Nadauld, a former Young Women General President, getting shared on Facebook. It has continued through to today. So many of my friends (seeming independently) choosing to share the same quote, all without commentary. All of those friends women, who happen to be political conservatives.
Here’s the quote, from an October 2000 general conference address, “The Joy of Womanhood”:
Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.
So, a quote about how women of the world are tough, coarse, rude, greedy, vain, seeking popularity, fame and fortune…
…on a day of one of the largest protests in United States history, the Women’s March in Washington D.C., and dozens of “sister marches” scattered throughout the rest of the country (not to mention more than 20 countries abroad)…
…protests affiliated with anti-Trump sentiment, with many celebrities in attendance (even here in Utah).
What am I to think of this? How can I NOT see this as a self-righteous judgmental attack on those who participated in those protests?
Sisters, think about what you are saying. You are not attacking policies, you are attacking people. Some of the toughest, strongest women I know (women who served in the armed forces!) are suddenly saying it’s not okay to be tough. Women who can swear up a storm with the rest of them suddenly saying it’s inappropriate to be coarse.
You are calling your own sisters in this church rude, greedy, and vain. Do you HEAR yourselves? Many of you protested when your politically liberal sisters called you racist, sexist, and xenophobic for your Trump vote just a few months ago.
“We voted for his policies!” you cried, “it doesn’t mean we agree with EVERYTHING he said!”
“How can you call me these horrible things?!” you said. Well, now you know.
You want a church quote about womanhood? May I recommend this one from a later Young Women General President?
To be sisters implies that there is an unbreakable bond between us. Sisters take care of each other, watch out for each other, comfort each other, and are there for each other through thick and thin. The Lord has said, “I say unto you, be one; and if ye are not one ye are not mine.”2
The adversary would have us be critical or judgmental of one another. He wants us to concentrate on our differences and compare ourselves to one another…
…Sister Patricia T. Holland once said, “The point is, we simply cannot call ourselves Christian and continue to judge one another—or ourselves—so harshly.”3 She goes on to say that there is nothing that is worth us losing our compassion and sisterhood over. We just need to relax and rejoice in our divine differences. We need to realize that we all desire to serve in the kingdom, using our unique talents and gifts in our own ways. Then we can enjoy our sisterhood and our associations and begin to serve.
The fact of the matter is, we really and truly need each other. Women naturally seek friendship, support, and companionship. We have so much to learn from one another, and we often let self-imposed barriers keep us from enjoying associations which could be among the greatest blessings in our lives. –Sister Bonnie L. Oscarson (“Sisterhood: Oh, How We Need Each Other”, April 2014 General Conference)
Sisters, we are better than this. Stop it.