Few people have suffered as much adversity as Dorie Olds. She was married to forger and bomber Mark Hofmann. What has Dorie Olds learned from being married to Mark? I was amazed and impressed to hear her say, “Be grateful for adversity.” Wow. Certainly, she has experienced more adversity than most. I think you’ll be impressed by the lessons she has learned.
GT: So, as you look back now, what I’m hearing, please correct me if I’m wrong, but what I’m hearing is, as awful as this was, you’ve come out as a better person….
So as you look back on that night, especially knowing what you know now, do you regret your decision?
Dorie: No, no.
GT: So you’re–
Dorie: I think I made the right choice and the energy was there for me to go through with it.
Dorie: You know what? That adversity is important for us to have, to be able to learn what we came here to learn. And it’s important. And I don’t know how to explain this very well. It’s like be grateful for the adversity. Be grateful for the adversity because it’s because it’s what’s bringing you awareness and it’s bringing you to where you want to be rather than saying, “Oh no, that shouldn’t have happened.”
GT: The Book of Mormon tells us there must needs be opposition on all things. Is that how you think of it?
Dorie: Yeah, kind of. And it’s because I know that I wouldn’t be where I am today without that. And I am grateful for it. I’m grateful for all those experiences and I’m grateful that all the way through it, I can pinpoint places where I was assisted by that higher source. I had somebody asked me, “Do you still have your testimony?”
Dorie: And when I said yes, they were surprised.
It’s truly amazing to see how she has handled those horrific days from October 1985. Is it true Dorie blamed for the bombings? By whom? It’s a really interesting story!
Dorie: [Mark’s parents] are telling me, “This is all your fault. If you hadn’t wanted the house…”
GT: It was your fault that he was bombed?
Dorie: Yes, my fault. The whole thing. Yes. And just being accosted by them saying, “This is all your fault.” Yeah. I was. And I remember thinking, “I have to do something. I got to go out.”
And they said, “You can’t leave the room! You can’t leave this room!”
And it’s like, “Yes, I can! I am leaving in this room.” And walking out of the room into the hallway. No one was there and hearing this voice, tell me–a source of God, “Everything’s going to be okay.” And having this calm, peace come over me that is still there today that I still feel today, calm, peace, saying “Everything’s going to be okay.”
GT: This kind of boggles my mind. Why would they blame you for Mark being blown up?
Dorie: Because it does make sense. Because one, they don’t want to blame their own son. That’s the natural automatic.
GT: But why wouldn’t they blame a stranger?
I think this is one of my most remarkable interviews. What are your thoughts? How would you have reacted in her situation? Would you be able to count it as lessons learned?
While I understand why some people say they are grateful for adversity, it is hard for me to do that in my life. I lost my brother in a car crash 12 years ago. On the one hand, I have felt closer to God since then. I appreciate being closer to God, but I’d give it all away to have him back in my life.
“Be grateful for the adversity because it’s what’s bringing you awareness…”
This statement by Dorie struck me as I read this post. I value awareness, even though it can sometimes be painful or fuel feelings of awkward. But it also opens me up to learning and being a student of my situation. It was thought-provoking to read her reflections of this ordeal.