New International Version
They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.
New Living Translation
They crush people with unbearable religious demands and never lift a finger to ease the burden.
English Standard Version
They tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to move them with their finger.
Berean Literal Bible
And they tie up burdens heavy and hard to bear and lay them on the shoulders of men; but they themselves are not willing to move them with their finger.
King James Bible
For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers.
I was recently in a discussion with someone who felt the LDS Church was a cult and their “proof” was their claim that the leaders were just like those criticized in Matthew chapter 23, verse 4. https://www.bibleref.com/Matthew/23/Matthew-23-4.html
Most of what they claimed turned out to be hearsay and speculation. But then they brought up the policy on funerals.
While I’ve heard a lot about how funerals are to be conducted, I looked up the actual instructions:
When a bishop conducts a funeral, he or one of his counselors oversees the planning of the service. He considers the wishes of the family, ensuring that the funeral is simple and dignified, with music and brief addresses centered on the gospel. The comfort offered by Jesus Christ because of His Atonement and Resurrection should be emphasized. Family members are not required to speak or otherwise participate in the service.https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/general-handbook/29-meetings-in-the-church?lang=eng
Funerals are an opportunity to pay tribute to the deceased. However, such tributes should not dominate the service. A special family gathering, separate from the funeral service, is usually a better setting if the family wants more time to share tributes or memories.
He then challenged me to compare the guidance with recent funerals noted on the LDS Church website.
So, they then asked what about stay at home mothers who lose their husbands through death or divorce.
What does the church do to support them since they often lack job skills or other abilities due to following advice not to work. There were a lot of implications.
The answer I had is that I lack direct knowledge but I suspected our readers could answer the question.
What is your experience or the experience of those you know and how does it fit Matthew 23:4? For that matter, how does Matthew 23:3 apply?
3. So practice and observe everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. 4. They tie up heavy, burdensome loads and lay them onmen’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them. 5. All their deeds are done for men to see.Matthew 24:3-5