Some of our Prophets have been binary in their teachings

“He was either a prophet of God, divinely called, properly appointed and commissioned, or he was one of the biggest frauds this world has ever seen. There is no middle ground.”
—Joseph Fielding Smith, Doctrines of Salvation, vol. 1, Pages 188-189

“Our whole strength rests on the validity of that [first] vision. It either occurred or it did not occur. If it did not, then this work is a fraud. If it did, then it is the most important and wonderful work under the heavens.”
—President Gordon B. Hinckley

“Each of us has to face the matter — either the Church is true, or it is a fraud. There is no middle ground. It is the church and kingdom of God, or it is nothing.”
—President Gordon B. Hinckley

Elder Oaks has extended this binary thinking to the LGBTQ+ world in his recent pre-conference address to leaders.

“First, … that God created ‘male and female,’” and that this “binary creation is essential to the plan of salvation.”

“Second, modern revelation teaches that eternal life, the greatest gift of God to His children, is only possible through the creative powers inherent in the combination of male and female joined in an eternal marriage (see Doctrine and Covenants 132:19). That is why the law of chastity is so important.”

“Finally, the long-standing doctrinal statements reaffirmed 23 years ago will not change. They may be clarified as directed by inspiration.” For example, “the intended meaning of gender in the family proclamation and as used in Church statements and publications since that time is biological sex at birth.”

Elder Oaks seems to have overlooked a whole class of people known as intersex.

Intersex people are born with sex characteristics (including genitals, gonads and chromosome patterns) that do not fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies.

Intersex is an umbrella term used to describe a wide range of natural bodily variations. In some cases, intersex traits are visible at birth while in others, they are not apparent until puberty. Some chromosomal intersex variations may not be physically apparent at all.

Maybe Elder Oaks should have asked his boss, a physician, about intersex individuals. He also overlooked people that while not intersex, are just non-binary.

The reason I write this today is that I have a grandchild that came out as non-binary a few weeks ago. They do not see themselves as either male or female. Some days they feel feminine, and other days masculine. They and their family have left the church, so they are growing up free from any baggage the church would lay on them.

Much like Hawkgrrl’s question from her recent post, is there any place in the church for a non-binary person? Would my grandchild have been accepted in their ward if their family had stayed in the church? Would they attend YM or YW as a teenager? What is the eternal plan for a non-binary person?