I noted in a prior post that sex abuse scandals and how they are handled are one reason younger generations are leaving religion altogether, further eroding the benefits of community that come with belonging to a church. If it’s all old people in the pews, what’s the point? Just go to a rest home or the local VFW. If I wanted to know what old people thought, I’d … well, nevermind. I already know what old people think. It’s not like they are shrinking violets about it.

Back to the topic, while it’s true that all churches, progressive or conservative, have dealt with issues involving sex abuse, it’s the conservative churches that seem to be blowing it big time, taking the hits in the media, while occasionally claiming they set the “gold standard” for how they prevent and handle it. Riiiight. Even the newly elected Pope Leo, who some on the right think is a squish, has been insufficiently effective at handling the sex abuse scandals that have rocked the Catholic Church according to many lay members.

Basically, sex abuse is a topic where we should have zero tolerance, and yet, there are going to be more than zero instances. Every instance is really only an opportunity to fail. Nobody is going to get kudos for handling a life-ruining problem perfectly because there are victims. Victims whose lives are forever altered. Anything other than a time machine to reverse what happened is going to feel inadequate.

But there are a number of reasons why conservative churches handle these scandals more poorly than progressive ones, at least in the eyes of the congregants who are prone to side with the victims, with whom they may more naturally identify. Siding with the institution requires a large dose of victim blaming and cruelty that can also prevail in conservative churches, but it won’t convince those who are closer to the victim or who understand the horrific facts of these cases. There is no good outcome for the victim as a result of being sexually abused. Nobody is ever glad they got abused, hoping for a big payday, thinking it was all worth it. No 12-year old girl ever “seduced” a clergyman decades older than her, despite what that clergyman might claim. No child has ever been glad that she can now be promiscuous because her father or uncle raped her, making her feel nihilistic and worthless. You can survive, but you don’t really forget abuse. The body keeps score.

There are three issues with the data on sex abuse in churches:

  • Abuse cases often go unreported or are settled quietly. Victims are often told they must keep the settlements confidential, either implying that it’s a condition of their payout, or using guilt trips to protect the abuser.
  • Different definitions of abuse exist (sexual, emotional, and spiritual) that can complicate data. For example, the LDS church’s current abortion policy refers to pregnancy that results from “forcible” rape. Does that mean they are saying incest or statutory rape doesn’t qualify? What about other forms of coercion? Do you have to have bruises to “prove” it was rape? It sure sounds a lot like the passage in Miracle of Forgiveness in which women who are murdered by their rapist are lauded as the only true victims because they fought back. If you try to talk your way out of it or if you are drugged, well, I guess you wanted it, right?
  • People report abuse to clergy, even when the abuse was not done by someone who is a paid employee of the church. Both victims and abusers may disclose to clergy. Churches are magnets for reporting among congregants, although IMO, that’s like reporting your rape to campus police. Go to the real cops. They are also not great, but they don’t have the conflict of interest inherent in bad PR. But this is one reason that churches get the bad press for mishandling sex abuse that wasn’t perpetrated by the Church itself. This doesn’t normally happen with other institutions where reporting is prevalent such as schools or medical personnel.

Here are some comparisons between how conservative and progressive churches handle these matters:

Theological and Institutional Structure

  • Conservative churches (e.g., Catholic, Southern Baptist, Orthodox, LDS) tend to have more centralized authority, male-only leadership, and stronger emphasis on obedience, purity, and institutional loyalty.
    • These dynamics can sometimes suppress whistleblowing, discourage outside scrutiny, or prioritize the institution’s reputation.
    • Examples: Catholic Church abuse crisis, Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) scandals, some high-profile Evangelical megachurches.
  • Left-leaning churches (e.g., mainline Protestant denominations like the Episcopal Church, United Church of Christ, some progressive synagogues) tend to emphasize openness, inclusion, and accountability—and often have more women and laypeople in leadership.
    • This may promote better internal checks and less culture of secrecy, though it does not eliminate abuse.

🧩 Conclusion: Authoritarian and hierarchical structures—not just ideology—can enable abuse and cover-up more easily.

Media Attention and Scale

  • Larger, global institutions (like the Catholic Church or SBC) receive more scrutiny because of their size, visibility, and the sheer number of cases.
  • Progressive churches are often smaller and more localized, so scandals may get less attention, even when they happen.

🔍 Example: The Catholic Church’s abuse crisis has involved tens of thousands of cases globally. No progressive denomination has had scandal on that scale, partly due to institutional size and structure.

Gender, Power, and Leadership Culture

  • Conservative religious environments often:
    • Limit leadership roles to men
    • Teach strict gender roles and sexual purity
    • Discourage challenging male authority
    • Normalize secrecy under the guise of forgiveness or discretion

These conditions can create environments where abuse can fester and be hidden.

  • Progressive churches tend to:
    • Promote egalitarian leadership
    • Emphasize consent culture
    • Encourage transparency and external reporting

⚠️ But they are not immune. Abuse still happens in liberal communities—it’s just more often framed around boundary violations, emotional/spiritual manipulation, or mishandling pastoral relationships.

Summary:

FactorConservative ChurchesProgressive Churches
LeadershipOften male-only, hierarchicalMore egalitarian, collaborative
Size & StructureLarge institutions, globalSmall to mid-size, local
Accountability CultureTends toward secrecyTends toward openness
Known ScandalsMore widely reported and institutionalizedLess publicized, but not absent
Abuse PreventionOften reactive after scandalMore likely to have proactive policies (but varies)

🧠 Bottom Line: Abuse is not about ideology — it’s about power, secrecy, and structure. But conservative churches are often more vulnerable due to patriarchal authority, cultural taboos, and institutional self-protection.

Here are the actual best practices for making churches safer places where abuse does not flourish:

  1. Clear, enforced abuse prevention policies. These policies need to clearly identify what abuse is–all types of abuse (physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual)–mandate steps for reporting, and explain how the church handles disclosure and discipline. These policies should be reviewed annually and shared widely with all, not just leaders.
  2. Mandatory Background Checks. This needs to be for anyone working with minors and must be repeated periodically, not just once.
  3. Two-adult rule. No adult (not even the bishop) should be alone with a child during church programs. This applies across the board to Sunday School/Primary, youth activities, counseling, and transportation.
  4. Mandatory reporter training. All “staff” and volunteers (in the LDS Church, this is pretty much everyone due to callings), must be trained to recognize signs of abuse, know legal reporting obligations, and understand how to respond appropriately to a disclosure. In cases of child abuse, all suspicions should be reported to child protection agencies or police. There is no acceptable “confidentiality” in such cases.
  5. Provide a hotline, website or ombudsperson not affiliated with church hierarchy where victims can report misconduct. This reduces conflicts of interest.
  6. Churches with diverse leadership (including women) often have better accountability, less tolerance for secrecy, and more awareness of boundary issues.
  7. No unsupervised counseling without safeguards. All pastoral care or confession (worthiness interviews) should occur in visible settings, be documented or supervised, and follow clear ethical guidelines.
  8. Survivor-centered response should be the norm. When abuse is reported, believe the victim first, investigate thoroughly. Focus on the well being of the victim. Avoid defensive reflex of either the accused or the institution. Provide victim counseling, legal assistance (to victims), and a safe space for healing.
  9. Cultural transparency. Practice and teach about healthy relationships, boundaries, and consent. It is the church’s responsibility to protect the vulnerable. Conversations about trauma and accountability should be the norm.
  10. Independent investigations when needed. External experts (legal, psychological, or theological) should be engaged to investigate and recommend reforms. In-house coverups should be avoided.
  11. Cultural norms. End purity culture that shames victims. Teach healthy sexual and power dynamics. Cultivate a culture where authority is earned and accountable, not assumed or unquestionable.

The Church has made some significant steps to improve, often at the behest of critics who were then excommunicated, but it remains far from the gold standard. If you read through the above list and are familiar with the church’s approach, it’s probably pretty clear where the Church falls short. Here’s a quick overview of the status quo as it is today and where the gaps are:

Safety StandardLDS Status
Abuse prevention policy✅ Public and evolving
Mandatory training for leaders✅ Exists, but not always enforced
Two-deep adult rule🟨 Partial (not in interviews)
Mandatory reporting of abuse❌ Not required; legal privilege used
Independent reporting mechanism❌ None
Clergy training and professionalization❌ Lay leaders, no trauma expertise
Female leadership❌ Not allowed in ecclesiastical roles
Survivor-first response🟨 Often subordinated to legal risk
  • Do you think the church intends to make the needed reforms to protect victims of abuse?
  • Does the church consider this an important area for improvements, or is it enough to declare they are the gold standard?
  • Do you know people in leadership who feel that the church’s safety standards are lacking?
  • What do the church’s priorities in handling abuse cases say to you? Are you concerned about it?
  • Is this concern going to become a bigger or smaller issue in the coming years? If you were in charge, what would you do about it?

Discuss.