I have two stories to tell, and then a discussion.

Back when I was a teenager, there was a fight (I grew up in a violent family). Little Sis and Bro had a job to do. Little Sis’s portion was the first step. Bro had to finish the job. Apparently, Little Sis did not do her part of the job up to Bro’s standards. I don’t know if he asked Little Sis to redo it, or if he just immediately got mad. I got involved in the fight when Little Sis went tearing past me, her face a mask of terror as Bro chased her down. Little Sis was about 8, and Bro was mid-teens. Huge size difference. I got in the middle and found out the problem. “I’ll fix it!” I yelled, “I’ll do her job! Leave her alone!” I was body-blocking Bro who was still trying to get around me to reach Little Sis (she was under the couch by now). Bro turned down my offer. I asked him, “Do you want the job done or do you just want to hurt her?” In total honesty, he yelled back at me, “I just want to hurt her!”

The second story comes from a Gospel Doctrine lesson I taught as an adult. The discussion was about worthiness and what we had to do to reach the Celestial Kingdom. A woman raised her hand and said something to the effect that she didn’t want anyone who had done less than she had done to get to the Celestial Kingdom because it wouldn’t be fair. Stunned at her uncharitable attitude, I took a couple minutes to gather my thoughts and replied something like, “I hope there are tons of people in the Celestial Kingdom who did less than I did! I don’t want to be the bottom cut-off. I want so many people to be there that no one even questions whether I scraped through as the last one in.”

Alright, let’s pick a topic where we could ease peoples’ suffering and rough times if we wanted to, but not everyone wants to. Student debt forgiveness. Skip all the political comments, okay? This is a discussion about attitudes, not about what a political party did or didn’t do and why. Also, for purposes of this blog post, forgiving student debt has no financial impact on anyone else. FOR PURPOSES OF THIS BLOG POST. 

And again, I’ll tell a story. I was in a work setting and student loan forgiveness came up. A man in his 60s, who is making a generous salary (still not in the 1%, but maybe the top 20%) said he disagreed with student loan forgiveness because he had to pay back his student loans. If he had to do it, so should everyone else. He got his degree and a well-paid job. Yes, he had some hard times and it pinched to make the student loan payments. He paid his loans. He never went homeless or hungry while paying his loans.

However, if student loans are forgiven for someone now, it isn’t going to make his life any easier. He’s already paid back his loans; nothing can change his past, and no one is going to reimburse what he already paid.

Do we make life easier for people and forgive student loans?

Why or why not? 

  1. No loan forgiveness. I had to pay back my loans; no one should have it easier than I did.
  2. No loan forgiveness. It builds character to struggle financially.
  3. No loan forgiveness. People might get a sense of entitlement.
  4. Yes to loan forgiveness. There are so many economic challenges now; the world has changed; let’s forgive student loans.
  5. Yes to loan forgiveness. People will take the money they would have spent on loan repayments and spend it spending, which helps the economy.
  6. Yes to loan forgiveness. We should help people. Life should be better for those that come after us.
  7. Yes, but only if they’re in a really sympathetic situation like a single parent working a minimum wage job while caring for a child with special needs.
  8. Yes and no. Some people should have their loans forgiven and some people shouldn’t.
  9. Yes and no. Some amount of student loans should be forgiven, but not the entire balance.

The way this ties into Church is the commandments and rules that are just for the sake of having commandments and rules. The Church leaders believe that people will be blessed for obedience, even if the obedience could be waived or modified by the Church. Tithing is the perfect example. The Church could drop tithing to 5%. Or go back to say people should pay tithing on their increase (income minus expenses) rather than their gross income. Yet the struggle to pay tithing is somehow character building.

What I’m getting at is a thought exercise designed to see if the attitude the Church teaches about how you’ll be blessed for suffering and sacrifice carries over into secular areas. Specifically, in ways in which suffering COULD be lessened if we wanted. Everyone has pain and problems. But some pain and problems could be lessened or eliminated.

Clearly, the tendency to refuse to help, or to actively increase someone’s suffering because “they deserve it” (like my Little Sis) doesn’t originate with religion. You can be an atheist or agnostic and still resent it if someone gets help that you didn’t get. Even if helping someone else doesn’t increase your suffering, some people resent when other people get something that they didn’t.

It’s a fairness discussion, but with a twist. Assume your suffering and struggles are in the past. You paid your student loans; you did your chores; you made it to the Celestial Kingdom. Nothing is going to change that. But now … things are going to be easier for the people coming after you.