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Earlier this week, I attended a Continuing Legal Education presentation on the Dignity Index. Its purpose is to increase civility in public discourse. As the partisan divide deepens, both sides express contempt for the other, which forces us further apart. The Dignity Index does a great job of explaining why some language makes it possible for both sides to work together, and why other language drives us further apart. It launched about two years ago.

I’m providing a brief summary here, but I encourage you to look at all the resources on their website: https://www.dignity.us/. They’ve boiled the essence down into short talking points and easily readable elements and principles on their principles page: https://www.dignity.us/resources

Comments are scored on an eight point scale, with eight demonstrating the highest empathy and respect, and one basically calling for the extermination of anyone you dislike. The part I’m pasting in here is brief enough for a blog post. There is a lot more explanation and some great talking points on their website, and I encourage you to read it and maybe spread it around. We could all benefit from evaluating our own words to see if we’re respecting the dignity of other people. The Dignity Index applies to our own words too.

The presenter had only an hour. That’s enough for a brief introduction. She presented us with examples from pop culture to practice using the Dignity Index. We scored comments from a movie and a tv show. In this post, I’m going to present some quotes from the Church leaders for scoring, searching specifically for their words about people they disagree with since the whole point of the Dignity Index is to acknowledge the dignity of and humanity of people we disagree with. The Dignity Index Scoring Guide is on the resources page: https://www.dignity.us/resources. The quotes I’ve put in while scoring are taken from the Dignity Index Scoring Guide.

Quote 1

From Dallin H. Oaks, “Following Christ” on Saturday morning: 

“Potential adversaries should begin their discussions by identifying common ground on which all agree. To follow our Perfect Role Model and His prophet, we need to practice what is popularly known as the Golden Rule: “All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” We need to love and do good to all. We need to avoid contention and be peacemakers in all our communications. This does not mean to compromise our principles and priorities but to cease harshly attacking others for theirs. That is what our Perfect Role Model did in His ministry. That is the example He set for us as He invited us to follow Him.”

Oaks isn’t really talking about the people he disagrees with in this quote. He’s instructing all to treat each other with respect. The suggestion to start by finding common ground is Level Six (“We talk to the other side, searching for the values and interests we share, and using them as a basis for cooperation.”). The statement that we don’t compromise our principles and priorities but we “cease harshly attacking others for theirs” is Level Five (“I share my views with no contempt, so they’re easier for others to hear.”).

Quote 2

Bradley R. Wilcox, “O Youth of the Noble Birthright”, General Conference, October 2024.

“Why do Latter-day Saints live so differently? … when we use our moral agency to make and keep covenants with God, we become heirs of the everlasting covenant God has made with our forebearers in every dispensation. Said another way, we become “children of the covenant.” That sets us apart. … Does your birthright mean you are better than others? No, but it does mean you are expected to help others be better. Does your birthright mean you are chosen? Yes, but not chosen to rule over others; you are chosen to serve them. Is your birthright evidence of God’s love? Yes, but more important, it is evidence of His trust. … Because of your choice to make and keep covenants, He offers you His trust. He trusts you to be different, peculiar, and set apart because of the important work He trusts you to do.”

The essence of Wilcox’s talk is that LDS live differently because they are better, but in a way that makes LDS youth loving and focused on service. LDS youth are better and more trusted. He was trying to walk a fine line between saying LDS youth are better than other youth, but somehow they aren’t supposed to look down on them? Something like that.

I would rate Wilcox’s talk around Level Four (“We’re better than those people. They don’t really belong. They don’t really share our values.”) with some ideas that stoop down to Level Three (“We’re the good people; they’re the bad people. It’s us versus them.” and “They look down on us and mock our values.”). Wilcox discussed an ‘us vs. them’ situation, while clearly trying to be nice about it. Divisive language sounds a lot like Wilcox when the speaker is trying to be super polite about relating us versus them ideas. 

Quote 3

Russell M. Nelson, “Christ is Risen,” General Conference, April 2021. 

“Your mountains may be loneliness, doubt, illness, or other personal problems. Your mountains will vary, and yet the answer to each of your challenges is to increase your faith. That takes work. Lazy learners and lax disciples will always struggle to muster even a particle of faith.”

These words hurt a lot of people. I would score this at Level Three (“makes a personal attack on the other, targeting performance, competence, appearance, background, character or morals.” and “takes credit for good outcomes and blames the other side for bad outcomes.”).

Quote 4

Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Come, Join With Us,” General Conference, October 2013.

“The search for truth has led millions of people to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. However, there are some who leave the Church they once loved.

One might ask, “If the gospel is so wonderful, why would anyone leave?”

Sometimes we assume it is because they have been offended or lazy or sinful. Actually, it is not that simple. In fact, there is not just one reason that applies to the variety of situations.

Some of our dear members struggle for years with the question whether they should separate themselves from the Church.

In this Church that honors personal agency so strongly, that was restored by a young man who asked questions and sought answers, we respect those who honestly search for truth. It may break our hearts when their journey takes them away from the Church we love and the truth we have found, but we honor their right to worship Almighty God according to the dictates of their own conscience, just as we claim that privilege for ourselves.”

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Uchtdorf’s description of people who leave the Church scores at Level Seven (“I’m curious about what people have been through and how they came to believe what they believe.”) and Level Eight (“Everyone is born with inherent worth, so I treat everyone with dignity no matter what.”). 


The Dignity Index is a great idea and I hope it catches on. It doesn’t address every problem, and it isn’t designed to. One issue that is not addressed by the Dignity Index is how to handle outright lies and bigotry. The CLE presenter said that speaking with dignity doesn’t remove accountability when you’re confronting bad behavior, but the one hour we had wasn’t enough to get into accountability for lies and bigotry, and the harm they cause.

Next week, I’m going to publish the Reality Index that helps rate how well information connects with reality. I’m also thinking about a Power Index, which would acknowledge how different it is to talk about disagreements when you’re in a position of power or a position of vulnerability.

Questions:

  1. Copy paste a quote from a Church leader and rate it on the Dignity Index. 
  2. Look at your last several comments on social media. How would you rate yourself on the Dignity Index?
  3. Is there someone you particularly admire for their ability to engage the opposing point of view without erasing the opponent’s dignity?