In the virtual hellscape that is post-Elon Twitter, I’ve been noticing that there are quite a few outspoken church defenders who very openly state that they would love for all left-leaning, liberal, progressive, or “woke” church members to leave. Sometimes they include invitations for people to kill themselves or other light threats, because Twitter. Nearly all of my friends who’ve left the church lean progressive. I suppose these specific so-called defenders would consider that “proof” that those folks were bad apples rather than considering the possibility that their bad acts, which go unopposed, have revealed rottenness at the core of the church.

I’ve been reading Romney: A Reckoning, and it includes an incident in August of 2020 when Mitt Romney was invited to brief the Q15 on the upcoming election. This is an interesting twist on the accusations he suffered as candidate Romney in which antagonists claimed he would take direction from Salt Lake. Au contraire! He was in the position of advising the quorum of apostles. He told them the choice in the 2020 election was between an “awful person” or “awful policies” and that their choice would depend on what they considered more important.

I have a few serious problems with this characterization. First, Mitt was secretly rooting for Biden, which the biography makes clear, but he didn’t feel comfortable openly supporting him or even casting a vote for him because he believed in broadly conservative ideals: capitalism, the role of religion, and skepticism of new government programs. But as a problem-solving legislator, Romney did in fact create new government programs that were not particularly conservative, and that many on the right demonized or refused to support, although they have mostly proven popular and effective. Part of Trump’s 2024 platform is to finally repeal “Obamacare” which was based on Romney’s winning healthcare plan in Massachussetts. He drafted the CARES act under Trump. He marched with Black Lives Matter protesters. As a governor, he compromised on abortion. He wrote a child tax credit proposal (didn’t pass) that didn’t require recipients to work. He was (often) willing to listen to constituents and to craft solutions that would solve real problems for real people, which is what government is supposed to do.

Yet he was unwilling or unable in this crucial moment, meeting with Church leaders, to recognize that a “good person” with supposedly “awful policies” might actually, like he did, learn and grow in the role and employ “good policies” based on listening to the needs of constituents, nor to recognize that his own policies were not very partisan! Instead he told Church leaders essentially nothing. Everything he said could be taken by them to mean whatever they wanted it to mean, and that is the most Mormon thing of all–giving others advice that is so neutral they can justify or rationalize whatever they alread believed. The reckoning Romney faces is also one the Church faces–or more likely, isn’t facing.

As pointed out previously, the Church has continually shifted its position on political neutrality to downplay the character of the candidate (which Romney really thought was most important) and to emphasize the importance of policies that are socially conservative (what Oaks and others seem to want most). Romney also didn’t emphasize that the “awful person” in question also had a lot of disastrous policies, many of which are enumerated in the book; Romney had even voted to impeach based on the strong-arm tactics used by Trump with Zelensky, which was Trump’s approach to foreign policy. At every turn, Romney saw that Trump’s actions were motivated by his incompetence, narcissism, greed, and malign purposes. This is detailed in the book. Having an “awful person” in charge does not actually lead to “good policies.” But Romney implied that it did to conservative church leaders who also likely believed in the idea of “holding your nose” and voting for the (bad) Republican rather than voting for (what they assumed was) the actual devil himself, any Democrat. If he had instead said the choice was between an awful person with awful policies and a good person with a mixed bag of policies who might overspend and tax corporations, he would have been representing his actual views more accurately. But he didn’t say that!

And he should have known better! Earlier in the book when he lost against Obama he specifically unboxed his feelings about the actual Obama presidency. When he ran against him, he had convinced himself that the election was an existential threat, that he needed to win to prevent the economic downfall of the country. But he observed that Obama was actually a decent man, a good leader, and that his policies weren’t actually all that bad. All the doomsaying he had done to amp himself up as a candidate was overblown; he admitted this to himself. He might still prefer conservative policies, but progressive ones didn’t cause the downfall of the country. They weren’t awful. But when asked by Church leaders for advice on the upcoming election, he reverted right back to comfortable conservative tropes, telling them what they already believed. Democrats have bad ideas, but character matters so it’s a conundrum. Perhaps he failed to notice when the church’s political neutrality statement subtly removed the encouragement to vote based on the candidate’s character in 2016; after all, he heard that admonishment his whole life like I did, and he certainly believed it. He might not have accurately read the room, and it wouldn’t be the first time.

I recently listened to an interview with the son of a pastor who described what he called the new “war” in Evangelicalism that is tearing their congregations apart. He said that historically, the Christian approach was to hold those inside the faith to a high standard (hence the term “high demand religion”) while treating those outside the faith with an outpouring of love to welcome them into the fold, to entice them to join. He noted that in the last few years, this has flipped. Those on the inside get a pass for some of the most egregious sins and behaviors, and those on the outside (ideologically) are treated as enemy combatants, with the worst judgments possible applied to them. All the generosity is reserved for those on the same team. Of course, this persuades nobody and sows division. Perhaps this is why LDS church leaders are calling for more civility. Perhaps its another disease we’ve caught from the Evangelicals.

The pastor’s son didn’t mention something I’ve always observed, that those who have left the church are vilified, blamed, and often treated worse than those who have never joined; we love potential converts, but we hate heretics. The “outpouring of love” appears to be mostly a show, employed as a tactic to lure in new followers, fellowshipping, not a genuine Christian expression of loving our neighbor. If the transaction of conversion is seen as off the table, the mask of civility falls.

I did a quick Twitter poll, and Reddit poll to see what others are experiencing. First, a quick clarification, the majority of respondents to both these polls are ex-Mormons, so this is the perspective of those who have left the church, not how active members see themselves. Still, if this is not how active members actually feel, they are doing a bad idea of getting their true feelings across. The Twitter results (small sample size, but pretty consistent the entire time it ran):

Twitter poll dated 11/30/23

The results of the Reddit poll were nearly identical, with only minor shifts: So, is this the dog that caught the car? Did conservative church leaders allow this to happen with their conservative dog whistles (and less subtle anti-left rants), and now they have the congregation that Trump and the John Birch Society built? Or is this just the perception of those who left and participate in post-Mormon discussion groups (vs. those who slip quietly into the ether of inactivity or those who left because the church was too woke?)

Considering the interview with the pastor’s son, it seems like it’s about a 50/50 split in Mormon congregations (based on feedback from ExMos on Twitter) in terms of whether they see progressives as possible (political) converts or enemies, and how dire a threat they view them if they see them as enemies. If so, here’s a re-cast of those results:

  • 20% see Democrats & progressives as an existential threat. And a whole bunch of them, when they aren’t shooting at FBI agents, are ranting on Twitter
  • 30% see them as wrong and bad, but not necessarily a threat; they believe in being civil or at least passive aggressive
  • 40% see them as bleeding hearts who will eventually grow into conservatives with exposure to the “right” ideas
  • 10% are the centrists, moderates, or even *gasp* progressives who remain active in the church, despite being in a shrinking minority

My own experience is that the anti-left talk has gotten much louder and more emboldened in the last few years, as my own intolerance of right wing ideology has grown (which is weird because I am not a Democrat and have voted for both parties). I’ve mentioned before that the ward I grew up in was filled with pretty vocal Democrats, although my parents were conservative, so I heard the gospel from different perspectives. I’ve talked to a friend who moved back to that area to care for elderly parents, and he says that the ward culture is completely different now, lots of paranoia and conspiracy theories, and pretty toxic. While it’s clear that the most strident voices feel emboldened on Twitter, I’ve also heard shockingly partisan things in person at church over the last 5 years that I have never before heard in my life. Trump has held up a mirror to our congregations, and it ain’t pretty.

  • Are your surprised by the encounter Romney had with the Q15 before the 2020 election or does this seem like what you would expect?
  • Do you agree that churches have flipped from judgmental of insiders / welcoming to outsiders to judmental of outsiders / generous to outsiders? What do you see?
  • Do the results of the survey match or differ from your own experience?
  • Do you think these attitudes have changed over time, or is it merely that people are saying what they think louder and with less civility?

Discuss.