My anniversary and my wife’s birthday are both in the month of July. I’m usually the one who makes a bigger deal about our anniversary than my wife. My wife, on the other hand, has let me know when she thought I didn’t make a big enough deal of her birthday. I’m just curious.
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So, I try to make a fuss of birthdays. Anniversaries not so much. That might be my upbringing; birthdays were always celebrated, but my parents rarely remembered their anniversary. My siblings and I did organise celebrations for their silver and ruby anniversaries.
My husband is very good at remembering both valentines day, and our wedding anniversary. I, on the other hand, got our wedding date wrong only a week after the event!
It’s hard to take a stance when I have no marriage to commemorate.
However, I’ve always considered my parents’ anniversary a bigger deal than their individual birthdays.
We make a big deal out of our anniversary: celebrating the creation of our family! Every year we pull out the album of photos, the wedding video to show the kids, and get away for at least an overnight to celebrate (and hopefully fit in a temple trip). Twenty years in, I think that’s one of the strong links keeping our marriage happy.
I don’t make a big deal out of either to keep the expectations low. That way when I do make an effort it seems more special 🙂
Birthdays were never that big of thing growing up – so I’m pretty bad at them now. Anniversaries I try to celebrate . . . but I’m not the best at these either. So… bad at both?
I really never liked being the only object of attention, so I never liked my birthday much. (I don’t mind gifts; just skip the party.) My anniversary is a time for me to spend with my wife, so that’s much more important. It still isn’t a big party, and after 26 years it’s not important that we make a big hoopla on the exact day, but we do acknowledge it and we try to do something together every summer around the 15th of June.